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Why You NEED to LOVE Your SELF

Sacred Journey.pngHave you ever had the thought that Self-Care is Selfish? You’re not alone. But…if that’s you — if you really believe that self-care is selfish, I’m here to burst your bubble.

For many people, the words “Self”, “Self Love” and “Self Care” have connotations with being “selfish” and are therefore thought of as “bad”, but our culture has it dead wrong. Nothing could be further from the truth.

Through the ancient traditions of Yoga & Ayurveda, we learn a deeper understanding of the self. 

The (small ‘s’) self is our personality, ego, mind, body, etc., but the big ‘S’ Self is the true self, higher self, more akin to one’s Soul.

During your everyday life, do you make time to do things that nourish your Self? 

In the busyness of your schedule, I wouldn’t be surprised if your answer is no. In fact, I would bet most people don’t even acknowledge, or think about, their true self most days. Sadly, it’s not without a price.

We all know what happens when we don’t feed our (small ‘s’) selves. We starve, we are diminished, and eventually, die.

What happens when we don’t feed our Soul? 

It withers. We lose touch with our dreams, our purpose, our confidence, our intuition. We forget our true Self, our one true “home”.

And when that happens, we start running on auto-pilot, we make choices that are out of integrity with our intentions, we have habits that don’t support real Health, we find fault in ourselves and others, frustration in things that shouldn’t really bother us…in short, life loses its LIFE. We aren’t Awake, and we certainly aren’t Radiant. That’s a big price to pay!

Being weighed down with regret isn’t the life anyone knowingly chooses, but it happens. We all want to feel AWESOME, but once you’ve been living a lackluster life for a while, it’s easy to forget that anything better is possible for you. 

Let’s not go down that road! When you see the life it leads to, the benefit of Self Care becomes more evident. So…

The Best Way to Nourish Your Soul is to Cultivate a Loving Relationship with your Self.

There are several wonderful ways to deepen your relationship to Self. One is the take care of your (small ‘s’) self — your body and your mind. Another is to spend time alone with the Self through the practice of Meditation. It doesn’t need to be long or strict – there are many ways to begin a practice EASILY.

Here’s a Meditation Audio to get you started… 

But if you’d REALLY like to FEED Your SOUL by cultivating a deeper relationship with your SELF, join my FREE Challenge NOW!

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On Being HERE Now…

Recently I made a BIG move in my life — a choice to relocate my family. It was a HUGE undertaking that took a lot of COURAGE on my part (as well as a lot of support from family and friends to make it happen). In the process, I encountered many obstacles — some real, some imagined (LOL!), some planned for and some that completely blind sighted me.

So…I am HERE now.

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Or, I was the other day. (Ha ha ha!) But seriously…after the hub-bub of the initial move was over, I found myself feeling misplaced. My whole life had literally been transported and the life I knew — the friends, the places, the things — were gone, and suddenly replaced by new people, places, and things that were unfamiliar and new.

Where was MY place in this all? It was a surreal experience altogether and for more than a hot minute, I questioned my choice and my ability to confidently follow through with my vision for our new life.

What the HELL? I had put so much energy and effort into making this new phase of my life happen and now that it was HERE, part of me wanted to curl up and hide under the covers for a month.

Not the smoothest transition for me, but probably not the worst either. I knew that I wanted to really SHOW UP and make the most of this experience, but I had gotten into some bad habits during the move that were getting in the way of me showing up as my BEST self. Mainly, I was waaaaay out of rhythm.

Ayurveda (EYE-your-VAY-da), the sister science to Yoga, teaches us that when we are out of rhythm, we suffer, and boy is that the truth! During the weeks leading up to and during the move, I was eating at irregular times, staying up late, eating a later, heavier dinner, and not getting up early enough to really start my day right. These might sound like no big deal, and honestly 2 years ago, I might not have thought so either, but after experiencing the EASE that comes from being IN rhythm, being OUT of rhythm was seriously PAINFUL — physically, mentally, and emotionally.

The price I paid for disregarding my body’s wisdom was REAL!

So what to do? First…I knew I had to get REAL here and get HONEST about what wasn’t working. Then, do the hard work of steering back in the right direction. That’s the hard part, though, right? When you find yourself in a position where you’ve already screwed up, sometimes it’s easier to just let it go than do the work of getting back on track. It’s called the “what-the-hell” effect. Ever heard of it?

“The what-the-hell effect is the feeling you get when you’ve already exceeded your preset limit and feel that since you’ve already failed, you might as well fail spectacularly…

…When you miss a goal or exceed a limit, be gentle on yourself. Don’t catastrophize. Armed with this knowledge and awareness, you’ll be able to make better, more informed choices as you move forward.”

It’s a REAL thing!!! You can read more about it in this short article by Eric Ravenscraft at LifeHacker.com HERE.

I’m sure you’ve had your own “what-the-hell” experiences. Sadly, it’s easy to keep going down that path and find yourself way, way off track. That’s how to devolve into a lesser version of yourself over time — NOT my recommendation.

If you don’t want to go down the path of regression/stagnation, you have to make a real effort to start right HERE where you currently are and pick the lowest hanging fruit that moves you in the direction you want to go.


5 Steps to Steer You Back On Track…

  1. Honestly recognize where you are and that it’s not where you want to be (but DON’T stay stuck there, move on to step 2).
  2. Know what you want to be different. What new habit would you like to have?
  3. Acknowledge the GAP between where you currently are and where you want to be and the fact that your daily habits have gotten you here.
  4. Know that you can CHANGE your habits.
  5. Ask yourself this question and be patient for the answer to arise: What New Thing Do You Need to Believe About Yourself In Order to Adopt Your New Habit?
  6. Write it down EVERYWHERE — put it on your computer desktop, your planner, your bathroom mirror, your refrigerator, your phone wallpaper, and anywhere else that you are guaranteed to look throughout your day.
  7. BELIEVE IT!
  • An example of a new belief might be: “I choose to listen to my body.” or “I have the power to design my life.” or “The way I eat nourishes my body.” If you’re having trouble coming up with a new belief to support your new habit, let me help you! Click the link at the end of this post to set up a time to talk to me!

 

What we believe about ourselves creates our daily habits, and our daily habits define us to the world, and then that’s reflected back to us by the people we interact with. So, literally…

Our thoughts about ourselves make the difference in who we are. They have the potential to either help us EVOLVE into more confident, loving, healthy people inside and out OR to keep us locked into all of the negative patterns that lead to our ruin.

It starts with just being HERE — being present with what IS with honesty and self-compassion.

When you sit with WHAT IS, what comes up for you? What’s not working that needs your honest, loving attention? What do you want to be different?

I want to know! Comment below or schedule a time to talk to me HERE.

As Always…

 

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Let Go of that $#*t!

Hello Thrivers!

Do you consider yourself a “thriver”? I do, but…it may surprise you to know that I don’t always FEEL like one.

I work on this stuff constantly, but that doesn’t mean I have all of my sh*t together. It means that I know it’s possible and I actively engage in making it happen.

Sometimes I feel 100% on top of my game, living in gratitude and joy, feeling alive and confident in my whole self – mind/body/spirit, and I know the practices that get me there, so I keep working actively towards closing that gap. In a big way, this path is about getting in tune with my highest self/ intuition/ Source, but more than that it’s a shift in perspective (as in what I believe about myself and the universe).

Did you know that most of your beliefs about the world, yourself, and what’s possible are set by the age of 3?

That means that the majority of us have a LOT of RE-patterning to do in order to live from our own TRUTHS. That sounds crazy, but it’s true. Right now, we are all walking around with unconscious beliefs that we’ve held onto since early childhood and those beliefs are making decisions in our lives. We are making choices every day that aren’t coming from a place of Truth and Choice, but from old habits that don’t serve us.

In this video, I share with you come of the holistic practices that help me stay on the path when I feel like I’m losing my S#*t! What do you do when you feel like you’re losing it? Let me know in the comments if this was helpful.

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If you’re interested in talking with me 1-on-1 about how to let go of the old habits of busyness and dis-ease in order to live a conscious path to THRIVE, set up your FREE Wellness Discovery Session with me HERE. I promise you’ll be glad you did!

Here’s what others are saying that have worked with me 1-on-1:

Untitled design (2)“Working with Jessica absolutely changed my life! I felt like I had hit a wall, and with Jessica’s guidance, I was able to see what patterns were holding me back. Jessica’s style of teaching is gentle and approachable, and she speaks from a place of experience and understanding, helping you make bite-size changes and celebrate them appropriately! The material in the course is extremely practical; I know that these habits will stay with me for the rest of my life.  Jessica has a wealth of knowledge in the healing arts, and she makes this information accessible to all of her students. I would recommend this course to anyone – from those beginning on a wellness path to those who have already been on one for some time.”
– Christina Sava, Attorney, Yogi

Interested in working with me for a year to see how AWESOME your life could be?
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It’s Time to Believe Something NEW About YOU!

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Often in life, we cling to beliefs that (seemingly) help us just get through tough times. There’s one in particular that most of us use, and I want to talk about it because it causes us a lot of grief — “I don’t have TIME to…” Do you ever hear yourself saying that? Sometimes we might use it as an excuse to decline to do something we don’t want to do. I’m not talking about those instances. I’m talking about the times we use it to put off doing something that would actually make a difference in our lives — like self-care practices and connecting with the people in our lives. How often do you put off doing something that would nourish you off because you “don’t have time”?

I know it feels like you have a thousand plates spinning in the air and YOU (and ONLY you) have to be the one to keep them spinning or everything will fall apart. You’re the glue. You’re the Goddess. Right? I get it. The problem with this idea is that 1- it’s false and 2- it keeps you stuck in the rat race, with the belief that you’ll have time for all the things you want out of your life AFTER you just get through this next phase and everything ELSE is taken care of.

We tend to withhold the good feelings, the self-care, the things that bring us joy and nurturance, thinking those aren’t achievable in the present. What I want you to get is that it’s not an “either/or” scenario. It’s not your health/happiness/wholeness OR your family/career/community. The rest of your life won’t fall away when you start to give to your Self.  In fact, it’s the opposite! Your health, happiness, and wholeness will begin to slip away from you if you don’t make some changes in your habits and lifestyle.

Your current thinking/ mindset (beliefs) and your daily habits (actions based on those beliefs) have to CHANGE in order to make the Life You Want a reality. Who you are right now is a culmination of your own beliefs and your past actions, based on those beliefs. The life you see dangling before you — the one where you have time for taking care of you and connecting with the people you love — can NOT exist in your current life. What old beliefs are still hanging around and creating a mess of your life? What NEW things do you need to start believing about your Self/Life/Body/Finances in order to Start Living Your Dreams?

Leave a comment to let me know what’s holding you back and where you want to go!!! (I promise to respond to every comment I get!)


Like where this is going? Want more? Read on…

I help people shift their beliefs about themselves (what’s possible) and their daily habits to live a life of wholeness, true health, and deep joy!

This is a journey of self-healing. You CAN reclaim your life’s potential! Let me be your guide! Have a conversation with me by clicking the image below:

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I’m taking a limited number of women with me on a year-long journey of self-healing starting in May (enrollment is open NOW thru May 11th). Using the wisdom and self-care practices of Ayurveda, the practical tools of habit science, and the dynamic support of a group, I will teach you how to take the steps necessary to get you from a life of chaos, regret, overwhelm, and autoimmune issues to a life you design of whole health, ease, joy, and deep fulfillment.

This course is for you if you are sick and tired of being sick and tired! Your TIME is NOW if you are ready to live an Awake + Radiant Life and say goodbye to:

  • Overwhelm
  • Daily exhaustion
  • Excuses
  • Putting your life on hold
  • Doing what others think you “should” do
  • Not being in control of your health
  • Autoimmune issues

Get More Details about my Awake + Radiant Living course HERE.

For whatever we lose 
(like a you or a me)
It's always our self
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What’s Your Trajectory?

This is a serious question I have for you. Just to be clear, let me explain what I mean. Whatever your daily/weekly habits are — and by that I mean your habitual thoughts, the things you take in (not just food, but what you see, taste, touch, feel, etc.), what you do with your time, energy, and money, the people you surround yourself with, etc. — these things define you. They define who you are and how you are showing up in your life, but they also define where you are going. That’s what I mean by “trajectory.”

IMG_4150You see, whether you (or I) are conscious of it, or not, we tend to keep doing/saying/thinking the same things day after day. People don’t mean to choose to be stagnant, but without regular “big picture” thinking and without learning how to evolve the way we spend our time/energy/money, chances are we aren’t going anywhere we haven’t already been.

It can feel difficult to change. As I just mentioned, “know-how” is often a factor, but another lesser talked about cause of stagnation is an attachment to how things are. There can be a comfort in the pain, as in maybe it “seems” more comfortable to stay stuck where you are than to trade it for something you don’t even know if you can achieve. This is NOT the voice of Truth, or even the voice of Reason (because, no doubt, Reason would say, “You’ve been here and you know this isn’t going anywhere. You’d be better off trying something different, and fast!“). This is the voice of Self-Doubt, and in order to conquer it, I suggest IGNORING IT, because entertaining it gets you absolutely NOWHERE FAST and the more you listen, the more it talks! Seriously! At each new stage of our growth, there is resistance. This will not change.

Growth may not always be “comfortable”, but everything that you crave so deeply (and is your birthright!) — Wholeness, Ease, Vitality, Freedom, Pleasure, Connection, Time for Yourself, Vibrant Health, and Joy — is on the other side of that resistance. The other side of fear.

I was in South Dakota for a Yoga Health Coaching retreat a couple weeks ago. We talked about Evolution a LOT! My teacher talked about how there are three basic trajectories for people — one that is narrowing, one that is stagnant, and one that is ever-expanding. Let me explain…

  1. Many people get more and more narrow in their trajectory throughout their lives — not intentionally, but it happens.  How many people do you know that are walking around as a lesser version of themselves than when you first knew them? Most of our planet, I’m sure! That’s kind of the common knowledge that’s put out, right? Over time, you get older, lamer, less fun, your health dwindles, and your heading towards the grave. Am I right (I mean about the message we receive)? It’s not TRUE at all, but that’s what most people expect (sadly), and that belief/expectation becomes their self-fulfilling prophecy.
  2. In the stagnant trajectory, we stay kind of dumb to the intelligence of our physiology and our potential. There’s just no real progression in our lives. We experience dis-EASE as a consequence for our habits that don’t serve us, but we make no changes.
  3. And then we have my personal favorite — the Expanding Spiral! When we are on this trajectory, we continue to learn from our mistakes, tap into the wisdom of our physiology, LEAN INTO our GROWING EDGES and actually LIVE OUR EVER-GROWING POTENTIAL!

 If we don’t say YES to wanting more and invest in new ways of growing, then we will keep doing the same thing we’ve always done.

If you’re interested in learning more about how to CHANGE YOUR TRAJECTORY, I have two suggestions —

  1. Sign Up for my 5 Day Challenge “Reclaim Your Life & Body!” ASAP. We start TODAY, but if you’re reading this late, you can still join us! Click HERE to Sign Up!
  2. Schedule a Wellness Strategy Session with me to get clear on your trajectory and how you to change it! Click the button below!

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Reclaim Your Life & Body! 5 Day Challenge

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Reclaim Your Life! So many of us women are caught up in the “busyness” of day-to-day life that we’ve lost touch with our dreams and our intuition. Instead of experiencing joy, we are in a constant state of overwhelm and burnout.

We have an epidemic in our culture where “stress” has become our normal state of being.

Not only is this terrible for our overall health (mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically), but YOU DESERVE BETTER! I’m sure you’ve heard this before, but…You Can’t Pour From an Empty Cup!

In the wise words of Ella Fitzgerald, “Somethin’s Gotta Give!”

Whether you are suffering from BURNOUT because you’re overworked, FATIGUE from overwhelm, “MOMMY-BRAIN” from always mult-tasking and sleep-deprivation, or a LOSS of HOPE in your life, THIS CHALLENGE WAS MADE FOR YOU!

I want to give you tools to help you expand time, increase energy, tap into your intuition and potential, and get back to LIVING A LIFE YOU LOVE in a BODY YOU LOVE! 

Ready to Join my 5 Day Challenge? What are you waiting for?!
We start Monday!

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❣️Loving Your Life and Designing More Ease & Joy Everyday❣️Challenge

Over the weekend I ran an impromptu “Weekend Challenge” on Facebook and Instagram. In case you missed it, I’ve put them all together here. It’s simple, but very powerful stuff for transformation! If you’re interested in going further with me, read all the way through to the special offer at the end. ❤

Day 1: Gratitude

For Today, Ponder this…👇🏻
How will you end out this week? Or begin your weekend? How about letting into your heart all that’s supported you throughout the week and taking stock of what insights you’ve gained, what gifts you’ve received, and what might serve you best going forward into the weekend? Start with Gratitude. Make a list. See what’s working already for you. Let all of it in! Receive. Receive. Receive. Without clinging to what has been, or might be, coming to you. With open arms. With a knowing that everything you need will continue to come to you. Always. #heartchakra #gratitudepractice #abundance #morejoy#weekendchallenge #sacredspacehealingarts #easefulliving #lovethyself #ayurvedaAnahata Chakra(Heart Chakra)

Day 2: Desire

Get in touch with what you DESIRE! ❤️💫♐️(If you didn’t read yesterday’s post go back and do that exercise first.) 📜Your desire is a roadmap to living your most awesome life! 🌟Instead of brushing your desires under the rug, give them your attention and let them guide you to using your gifts and living the life of your dreams!
🔮Make a list of all of the things you WANT. 🌈Nothing is off limits! 👈🏼
This isn’t for anyone else to read, so be free and HONEST! You might be surprised to see what comes out. Comment below and SHARE WHAT YOU DESIRE! ………………………….
OH! Before I forget, you can click this link to grab your Free Beginner Meditation Audio! So much LOVE!!
#desiremap #desire#sacredspacehealingarts #designyourlife#weekendchallenge #yogaoffthemat#bereal

Day 3: Your Next Evolution

Today’s homework is to feel into your DESIRE for the next evolution of YOU!
And one small action step you can take to move in that direction.
👊🏼💥BONUS for TOMORROW!!!
Check back at http://www.sacredspaceyogalander.com/blog for more! I’ll be going deeper into how to LIVE into your next Evolution!
#evolve #selfcare#radicalwomen #evolution#sacredspacehealingarts #desiremap#letdesireleadtheway #howtoevolve#yourconsciousevolution #love#yogaismorethanasana #noexcuses

Day 4: Living Into Your Next Evolution {Embodiment Practice}

As promised, today I share with you a BONUS PRACTICE for living into Your Next Evolution! Pssst…there’s a special (!FREE!) offer waiting there for you! So Much Love!!!
❤️👊🏼💫💥
#yourdreamlifeawaits #evolve #yogaismorethanasana #embodiment #sacredspacehealingarts #takingittothenextlevel #wholisticevolution #yogahealthcoach

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It’s FREE! This is a time that you and I can have a real and honest conversation. I will help you get clear on what obstacles are in the way of your growth and HEALTH.
No strings attached!

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Are you Upper-Limiting Yourself?

Have you ever heard the term “Upper Limiting”? In his book, The Big Leap, Gay Hendricks talks about how we self-sabotage by “upper-limiting” ourselves. He defines it like this:

“Each of us has an inner thermostat setting that determines how much love, success, and creativity we allow ourselves to enjoy. When we exceed our inner thermostat setting, we will often do something to sabotage ourselves, causing us to drop back into the old, familiar zone where we feel secure.”

Some of the ways we do this are worrying unnecessarily, playing the criticism and blame game, deflecting positivity and compliments, squabbling, and getting sick or injured. The premise is basically that we stop things from getting really great in our lives because, unconsciously, we don’t believe we deserve it. No one does it on purpose, so don’t beat yourself up. In my case with the newsletter, it was perfectionism (which might be a combination of criticism and worry).Getting It Done

Now I’ve learned that a balance needs to be struck between “getting it done” and “getting it right”, and in this case, I’ve been leaning all into the “getting it right” category, and therefore NOT getting it done at all.

Does this resonate with you? I can see how I’ve done this in so many ways throughout my life, but now that I recognize it so clearly, I’m changing how I do things. It won’t happen overnight, but it will happen. Starting with this post (which will also serve as a newsletter to those on my Email List)!

Owning up to behaviors/habits that don’t serve us is the first step in changing them. Now I’m wise to how seeking to get it right sabotages me from getting it done, so when I catch myself procrastinating on something because I want it to be “just so”, I will recalibrate and shift my trajectory towards Getting It Done.

In which ways do you Upper Limit yourself? I’d love to hear from you! Leave a comment below to start the conversation!

EVEN BETTER, take a minute to Schedule a Wellness Strategy Session with me!
It’s FREE!This is a time that you and I can have a real and honest conversation. I will help you get clear on what obstacles are in the way of your growth and HEALTH. No strings attached!

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Fall Into Ease: Free Talk in Lander, WY

October 21. 2017Fall Into Ease

Why do we often seem to make life harder than it needs to be?
We push ourselves too hard to produce. We try to fit too much into each day, live up to the expectations that we “think” others have for us, and then there’s FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out).

After all of THAT, there’s absolutely NO TIME left for YOU. Sound familiar? We all do it. That’s why I’m giving this talk. I want to share with you SIMPLE, EASY ways that the wisdom of Ayurveda can help bring more Ease & Energy into your life!

In this Free Talk, I’ll be giving tips on How to Nourish Yourself for More Energy & Mind/Body Ease. If you suffer from Auto-Immune issues, Chronic Fatigue, or if Stress and Overwhelm are part of your daily life, THIS IS FOR YOU!

In addition to Ayurvedic wisdom, there will be healthy seasonal snacks and beverages, awesome freebies, and a giveaway to look forward to! I hope to see you there!

What: Falling Into Ease
When: Saturday, October 21st at 10:00am
Where: Sweetwater Wellness, 628 Main St, Lander, WY

BRING A FRIEND & GET A SPECIAL TREAT!

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